There is nothing like living forgiveness to have a beautiful relationship.
Are you in a place where you feel forgiveness is out of the question? Can’t seem to be able to let things go? Heart Forgiveness
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Refuse to Fear Failure
There was a time when you weren’t afraid of failure, when you could do or be anything. You could leap tall buildings in a single bound; you could be an artist a doctor, an astronaut, a famous singer.
In the following TED Talk, featuring Regina Dugan, the difference between advanced technology and science fiction, between failure and creativity is beautifully illustrated as a means to encourage us to ‘refuse to fear failure.’
“What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” asks Regina Dugan, then director of DARPA, the Defense Advanced Research Projects Agency. In this breathtaking talk she describes some of the extraordinary projects — a robotic hummingbird, a prosthetic arm controlled by thought, and, well, the internet — that her agency has created by not worrying that they might fail.
The Touch of Divinity – Voices
There are two things, maybe three, that touch our inner divinity almost instantly: Voices and New Borns for sure.
Previously, I have sited many voices; but, this one is for sure.
Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.
I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never
became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a
result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical
details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end.
That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
Source :http://www.ariseindiaforum.org/nurse-reveals-the-top-5-regrets-people-make-on-their-deathbed/
Anita Moorjani’s Near Death Experience Reveals Truth
At the point that Anita “crossed over” she found revelation. In this first video she speaks of that moment and the revelation.
Anita then returned again into this world with a clearer understanding of her life and purpose on earth. This understanding subsequently led to a total recovery of her health.
She is the embodiment of the truth that we all have the inner power and wisdom to overcome even life’s most adverse situations, as she is the living proof of this possibility.
This second video is the complete interview by Lilou, of Juicy Living, of Anita Moorjani’s Near Death Experience:
Ten Ways To Make Peace With The Past and Create A New Future
Everyone comes into life with a purpose. You are a unique expression of the universal life force at the foundation of your physical form. Spirit guides you from the moment your life begins, and the people and events of your life reflect your spirit’s journey. No one else ever has or will affect the world as you do. With every act, word or thought, you are adding to All-That-Is.
Your family is your first and most influential bond. What you learn from them colors the the way you see yourself and the world. As a child, your physical helplessness makes you dependent on the people closest to you for survival. Too often those relationships are destructive instead of supportive. The family you join already has tendencies: patterns, beliefs, and attitudes which they expect you to share. Going along gets you what you need, so you adapt to fit in. But when you ignore your instincts, you don’t feel right. You create the opposite of what you intend.
The good news is you don’t have to be a victim of your upbringing. Although a dysfunctional family can crush your self-esteem, confuse you, and wreck your relationships, the distortion of your natural instincts can be reversed. Your problems can show you what you don’t want and inspire you to go after what you’d rather have, so you can set yourself free to become the person you want to be and create the life you dream of.
Surviving a dysfunctional family doesn’t necessarily mean getting along better with your relatives. You make peace with the past by treating difficult situations, thoughts, and feelings as opportunities to unravel the knots in your heart and mind that keep you from realizing your dreams. You create a new future by drawing on your innate wisdom to help you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals. When you do your best, you tap into a power that’s been within you all along, in even the worst circumstances, even when you weren’t aware of it.
No matter what happens, trust that what you go through will enlighten you. Don’t be discouraged. The most important thing is dedication to trying new things and learning from your experience. Change doesn’t happen overnight it comes little by little, more and more, deepening your ability to love, create, and make a difference personally and in society.
Here are ten ways to spark change in your life and relationships:
1. SET A NEW COURSE: Finding your own preferences
Your new course is first an internal one, which paves the way for external changes. If you’re not satisfied with your life as it is, start by imagining that it can get better. What happens in your life is largely up to you, so make it a priority to figure out how to create what you want. Take time every day to think about what you want. Be willing to try new things. Pay close attention to ideas and feelings that light you up. Courage is accepting reality as it is and working with it to create what you want. Allow yourself to feel excited about your possibilities. What youdedicate yourself to, you can create.
2. TRUST YOUR INTUITION: Tapping into your inner wisdom
When you hear the “little voice of wisdom” inside, listen. Within you is a guidance system that makes itself known through your ideas and emotions. Trust it. Life can be confusing, and some people do try to manipulate you in devious ways. If something doesn’t feel right, it may mean that it’s not for you. Wonder about why not, and what you’d like instead. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Your instinct leads you to where you need to go at the perfect moment for the best results. Stand your ground. Believe in yourself in the face of criticism. No one else can tell you what you need or want. Have good intentions. Don’t second-guess yourself. Do what you think is best at the moment.
3. LOOK FOR A SILVER LINING: Developing a positive attitude
Spirit underlies everything. You are part of the universal creative energy. You didn’t come here to prove your worth or to find a problem and fix it. You came to express your talents and abilities, to realize your dreams. What you experience depends on how you look at it. How you interpret things plays a large part in shaping your behavior and how others treat you. Search for the positive. Focusing on the negative dulls your energy and ability to cope. No matter how bad a situation seems, find something in it to appreciate. Ask yourself, what good could come from this? What can I learn here? The answers you get show you what to do next. You already have inside you the resources to make peace with the past and create a new future. You just have to learn how to use them.
4. TAKE A STEP BACK: Separating motivation from unconscious patterns
Be on the lookout for destructive habitual patterns. Noticing is the first step to breaking them. Don’t fight them, just observe your thoughts and feelings. The deeper you go, the more you unravel the stuck places in your heart and mind. Bring spirit into the process by inviting metaphysical help in any form that works for you. Be influenced by others’ opinions only if they inspire you. Criticism may be only an automatic response based in the critic’s own fears. You don’t have to convince anyone of your right to have your life as you want it.
5. WATCH WHAT YOU SAY: Developing effective communication
Tell the truth. Be kind. A little goes a long way. Speakcarefully. Emphasize the positive. Say good things,especially to yourself. Be aware of your effect on others. Don’t assume you’re being understood check it out. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, apologize, face to face ifpossible so you can look the other person in the eye. Don’t interrupt. Don’t give advice unless you’re asked. Don’t gossip. It wastes time you could be using to empower yourself. Choose your battles. If someone gets angry at you, stop doing whatever triggers them no matter how right you think you are, until you can find a better way to communicate. Why make yourself a target? Know when to shut up or decline to answer. Watch what you listen to. Don’t dismiss different points of view. Pay attention not only to what someone says try to understand why they’re saying it. Don’t put up with disrespect, manipulation or negative thinking from anyone, including yourself.
6. DON’T KEEP SCORE: Setting your own standards
Life isn’t about success or failure. Although both teach valuable lessons, fulfilling your potential is the essential goal. Adversity can develop strength. If a dream sours, let it go without judgment or remorse. Assume it’s no longer relevant, and look for new options. Even a losing battle can be a stepping-stone to a better situation. Accepting change brings peace of mind.
7. NO VICTIMS, NO VILLAINS: Every situation brings exactly what you need to wake up
Relationships are like jigsaw puzzles. All the pieces fit together to create the whole. You are not responsible for anyone else, nor are they for you. There’s no guilt, no blame, no shame. Allow things to be as they are. Accept each moment as if you’d chosen it.If someone hurts you, look for what you can learn from it. Holding a grudge drains your energy. Forgiveness doesn’t mean it was okay with you; it means releasing the person’s power to upset you. You may never forget, but letting go of resentment is more productive. This goes double for forgiving yourself.
8. MEDITATE AND TREAT YOURSELF WELL: Nurture yourself
Make time to have fun and enjoy life. Take walks in nature. Spend time alone. Exercise, rest and eat when you need to, and drink lots of water. Something as simple as a warm bath or good stretch can do wonders in improving your perspective. Laugh. Let yourself dream your fondest dreams. Celebrate your successes, big and small. Meditation calms your conscious thinking mind, and helps you access your inner wisdom. Counting your breaths is the basic form, or you can silently repeat a soothing word or phrase like “peace” or “well-being.” When your mind wanders, and it will, just bring your focus back and start over. Even ten minutes a day can make a difference.
9. GET OUTSIDE HELP: See beyond your blind spots
Get counseling, either by yourself or with family members. It helps to talk about your feelings, no matter how embarrassing, strange or awful they seem to you. Findsomeone you trust and feel compatible with, and be willing to pour your heart out. An objective outsider can clear up confusion and help you set your creative energy free. Examine both sides of any issue. Don’t follow advice blindly, but do explore ideas that make sense to you to seewhat happens. Join a group of people with similar interests or circumstances to yours. Try art, sports, music, or dance for fun and/or therapy. Read self-help books. Most have at least some helpful nuggets, and can reassure you that you’re not alone. Don’t expect The Answer, but serve yourself a variety of ideas to take or leave as you like.
10. MOVE ON: Graduate to living fully
Respect your own boundaries. Your first commitment should be to yourself and to learning as much as possible from what happens to you. Only when you’re at peace with yourself can you make a real contribution to anyone. Live your own truth, be honorable, and intend the best for everyone, including yourself. Trying to change someone is futile, no matter how much you care, or how badly you think they need it. You have no control over what anyone else feels or thinks. Do what you can, and do your best, but not at your own expense. Working things through can be healing when there’s mutual respect, but if you feel hopeless, scapegoated, threatened or frantic, retreat may be the only appropriate choice, at least for the moment. It could be as basic as leaving the room briefly, or as extreme as ending the relationship or moving away. But be open to the possibility that the “problem” person may surprise you. Your changes alter the context of the relationship, so eventually they may come to treat you differently. If so, you may want to renew the relationship, but don’t rush into it until you’re confident that things have changed. To leave your mark on future generations, pass along what you learn.
I wish you healing, faith and the courage to make your dreams come true.
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Suzanne Gold (MA, Psychology), “The Family Fixer,” (Pacific Sun) is a life counselor, spiritual coach, teacher, and author of Daddy’s Girls, Gold Medal winner in ForeWord Magazine’s Book of the Year Awards. Herself the survivor of a dysfunctional family, Suzanne teaches workshops, college seminars, and in private practice. She has worked in psychiatric and drug treatment centers, taught meditation, and co-founded a self-help group for women in public housing. An award-winning vocalist, Suzanne sang the National Anthem at San Francisco’s Candlestick Park before a crowd of 25,000 Giants fans. For more information, go to http://www.SuzanneGold.com or email Suzanne@SuzanneGold.com
REUNITING YOUR ANCIENT MEMORIES WITH THE NOW
REUNITING YOUR ANCIENT MEMORIES WITH THE NOW
You have been conquered through division and distraction. The only way to change this force in your life is to change how you view it. First you were taught to place your life into 24 hour segments, which was divided into school time, work time, and play time. By doing that you took something that was supposed to be continuous and beautiful and gave that beauty to a controlling monster called authority and time management. Once you had divided your life into those compartments, you then were taught to go internal and see things as either good or bad. This totally divided how you saw yourself in terms of trying to be good but occasionally thought, said or did bad things. Where did that leave you? If you had done thirteen good things but four bad ones for that day, how did you define yourself?
That wasn’t enough, but then you were taught to divide yourselves by how much money you had in the bank or how many nice things you had. It made sense then to divide you by the color of your skin or what belief systems you embraced. Finally, it became necessary to make sure you could not survive without “authority” telling you what to do, so they divided you by your sex. That was done to ensure that your soul would be divided, as well. Initially, the idea of exploring a feminine role verses a more masculine role worked very well. Each gave you different perspectives on life and relationships. But once the world became imbalanced with the masculine trying to control the feminine, the division grew even stronger and the whole world suffered.
We would ask that you start by not dividing your life into those compartments. You do not want to see that you are working at something from 9-5 everyday and then have your “time off” to do what you want to. Do you really want to look back over the last year and say that you spent over 2,100 hours of that year in something that was miserable? You greatly define what you expect out of life by statements like that. Obviously you are willing to be miserable for the “security” of having a pay check. In the end, that pay check may bury your body, but what will the cost to your soul be? How many happy moments (not hours) did you experience in that lifetime?
You do not want to divide your thoughts and actions between good and bad. If you do that you will be continuously spending as much energy judging what you’ve said or done and then punishing yourself for it as the initial thought itself. This, also, teaches you to judge others by their actions or words as good or bad, knowing full well you cannot react to something unless it also resides in you somewhere. Of course it does exist as you all have the capacity to answer to a wide variety of choices in a full range of reactions and emotions. Would you want someone to judge you by one word or one sentence for the rest of your life? It’s totally ineffective.
Good and bad is also reflective in how you react to those lovely teaching situations that happen often in your life. Would you say that something was bad if a lot of good came from it? How would you determine how much bad was needed for the judgment and how much good would need to be there?
It seems a little silly to say someone is successful simply based on the amount of things they’ve acquired. Instead it would seem to be better to look at the quality of life instead of quantity. Anyone can acquire things, it’s tougher to be happy in all of it and not let those things distract you. Often we hear people saying they are happy, but in their hearts they fear loosing their things and then possibly losing those people who are in their lives too.
If you could see all the different types of beings that exist in the worlds all around you and in other universes you would not get so caught up in skin color. To us that’s like one group of ants passing another group of ants and the one group thinking they are superior because their antennas point a certain way. They’re all ants. So you are all of the same type of energy no matter what kind of package you’ve chosen this time. Each one is carefully selected before birth knowing that package and family would determine what direction you would start out with. Each package (body) allows you an opportunity to try on a new costume on a new stage.
The idea of allowing beings the chance to divide themselves inside by choosing to accentuate either male or female was, in the beginning, an experiment. The idea was to see how the parts worked separately with the hopes they would come together and incorporate bringing the best of both worlds. Instead, it became necessary for the “authority” to control the feminine in order to make sure they could determine outcomes. What they didn’t realize is they also upset the natural order to things and as people became imbalanced, eventually Mother Earth followed. You cannot shut down essential parts of yourself like fingers, toes and feet and think that you could possibly run. You’d be lucky to just be able to stand.
The only way to bring all those parts back into a whole, which is what everyone is trying to do, is by first letting go of all of those segments and compartments. In its place see yourself and your life as being one river flowing together effortlessly. The river intuitively knows where it needs to go and is not stopped by things that would block its flow. It knows how to go around those things and actually incorporate them into the whole flow. Those of you who have gotten stuck in the sand on the side of the river or are hanging for dear life on one of those large rocks in the middle I would say, LET GO. See that you are one with everything around, above, and inside of you. Let go of anything that holds you back and does not allow you to feel the incredible joy of existing and being part of the river.
Look at those things you do not like to do and release them. Either find someone else to do them, or another way to accomplish your desire. If it’s your job, quit and what you really want or need will appear in your life. If it’s based on things, let go of them. Keep only what you need for they tend to own you very quickly. Simplify your life. If it’s a relationship, let them go, knowing you cannot wait on them any longer. If they are to be part of your life they will let go also and follow you. If not, they have someone else planted in their journey as you do.
Change your thoughts and words by not including good and bad. Instead, see everything as working perfectly, effortlessly for you. See that everything that happens to you in your daily life is a gift no matter what type of package it comes in. Give thanks for the gift and decide if you want to keep it or not. Look in wonderment at the beautiful way nature intuitively knows how to take care of itself and still has time to communicate and connect. Above all give thanks for the things you do have in order to receive what the Universe wants to send your way.
Created by BJ Wall, here is the link:
http://mountzion144.ning.com/group/reunitingyourancientmemorieswiththenow?xg_source=activity
Ahhh It’s YOU!
This clip could easily be called how to be a great leader or how to be a great parent!
Non verbal communication is 80-93% of everything we communicate – if you don’t know that and work with it, people may think you are insincere, untrustworthy and shifty! Watch how to make yourself congruent in all situations – it will help you in sales, relatipnships, leadership, parenting and every other aspect of life!
Louise Hay on thoughts
Louise Hay gives brief insights for more joyful living.
An inborn core of health exists within every person. Over the years, the core becomes covered by layers of conditioning and distortion from negativities in life. These layers are expressed into the body, mind, emotions, and into the world.
Discovery that each of us has Perfect Moments – the experienced essence of Pure Energy – provides a solid starting source and reference point, natural in each of us. You can easily expand this pure energy into beneficial RESULTS. Because this is inborn, the clarity easily becomes a natural expression of us flowing into positive, powerful, healthy and creative ways of living.
Core Health is a non-cultural, non-religious expansion of our inborn core of health. This innovative process moves beyond “treating symptoms” and beyond “tapping” on acupoints to Truly Freeing each individual by internal energetic decisions: Deeply ~ Thoroughly ~ Quickly.
Johan Miller, Core Health Facilitator
Emotional Energy – Emotional Competency
What is Emotional Energy?
What is Emotional Energy? from Stephen Barth on Vimeo.
Managing your Emotional Energy
According to workplace research, 80% of your success is dependent upon your emotional competencies…, flexibility, empathic listening, the ability to build a consensus, etc; but too often our negative emotional energy gets in the way. Negative reactions waste emotional energy. Today’s culture of conflict and negativity thrives on negative reactions and drives destructive behavior, eroding relationships and organizations. Managing your Emotional Energy is a discipline that discovers and builds upon your fundamental foundation to create positive, Stabilizing Pro-actions™. This powerful presentation sets you on the path to manage, direct and manifest positive emotional responses enhancing personal and professional outcomes.
Learning Outcomes
- Identify emotional competency gaps and acquire skills to fill them
- Have the tools to build a personal and professional foundation
- Re-script the subconscious to bring about powerful internal change
- Develop effective emotional competencies with daily reminders to transition from reactive to proactive responses
An inborn core of health exists within every person. Over the years, the core becomes covered by layers of conditioning and distortion from negativities in life. These layers are expressed into the body, mind, emotions, and into the world.
Discovery that each of us has Perfect Moments – the experienced essence of Pure Energy – provides a solid starting source and reference point, natural in each of us. You can easily expand this pure energy into beneficial RESULTS. Because this is inborn, the clarity easily becomes a natural expression of us flowing into positive, powerful, healthy and creative ways of living.
Core Health is a non-cultural, non-religious expansion of our inborn core of health. This innovative process moves beyond “treating symptoms” and beyond “tapping” on acupoints to Truly Freeing each individual by internal energetic decisions: Deeply ~ Thoroughly ~ Quickly.
Johan Miller, Core Health Facilitator